Recommended Reading
by
Adina Wrobleski
Suicide: Survivors A guide for those left behind
by
Carla Fine
No Time to Say Goodbye: Surviving the Suicide of a Loved One
Suicide would appear to be the last taboo.
Even incest is now discussed freely in popular media, but the suicide of
a loved one is still an act most people are unable to talk about--or
even admit to their closest family or friends. This is just one of the
many painful and paralyzing truths author Carla Fine discovered when her
husband, a successful young physician, took his own life in December
1989. And being unable to speak openly and honestly about the cause of
her pain made it all the more difficult for her to survive.
With No Time to Say Goodbye, she brings suicide survival from the darkness into light, speaking frankly about the overwhelming feelings of confusion, guilt, shame, anger, and loneliness that are shared by all survivors. Fine draws on her own experience and on conversations with many other survivors--as well as on the knowledge of counselors and mental health professionals. She offers a strong helping hand and invaluable guidance to the vast numbers of family and friends who are left behind by the more than thirty thousand people who commit suicide each year, struggling to make sense of an act that seems to them senseless, and to pick up the pieces of their own shattered lives. And, perhaps most important, for the first time in any book, she allows survivors to see that they are not alone in their feelings of grief and despair.
With No Time to Say Goodbye, she brings suicide survival from the darkness into light, speaking frankly about the overwhelming feelings of confusion, guilt, shame, anger, and loneliness that are shared by all survivors. Fine draws on her own experience and on conversations with many other survivors--as well as on the knowledge of counselors and mental health professionals. She offers a strong helping hand and invaluable guidance to the vast numbers of family and friends who are left behind by the more than thirty thousand people who commit suicide each year, struggling to make sense of an act that seems to them senseless, and to pick up the pieces of their own shattered lives. And, perhaps most important, for the first time in any book, she allows survivors to see that they are not alone in their feelings of grief and despair.
by
Ann Smolin, C.S.W. and John Guinan
Healing After the Suicide of a Loved One
Too often people suffering the aftermath of a suicide suffer alone. As
the survivor of a person who has ended his or her own life, you are left
a painful legacy -- and not one that you chose. Healing After the Suicide of a Loved One
will help you take the first steps toward healing. While each
individual becomes a suicide survivor in his or her own way, there are
predictable phases of pain that most survivors experience sooner or
later, from the grief and depression of mourning to guilt, rage, and
despair over what you have lost. Too often people suffering the aftermath of a suicide suffer alone. As
the survivor of a person who has ended his or her own life, you are left
a painful legacy -- and not one that you chose. Healing After the Suicide of a Loved One
will help you take the first steps toward healing. While each
individual becomes a suicide survivor in his or her own way, there are
predictable phases of pain that most survivors experience sooner or
later, from the grief and depression of mourning to guilt, rage, and
despair over what you have lost.
You may be torturing yourself with repetitive questions such as "What if...?" "Why didn't we...?" and "Why, why, why?" Healing After the Suicide of a Loved One
will steer you away from this all-too-common tendency to blame yourself
and will put you on the path to healing and recovery. Remember, your
wounds can heal and you can recover. Filled with case studies, excellent
information, valuable advice, and a completely up-to-date reading list
and directory of suicide support groups nationwide, this valuable book
will give you the strength and hope to go on living.